Sometimes in life all of us face a dilemma. Sometimes it’s hard to choose between the right and the wrong- you know what the right thing to do is, but you find it hard to say ‘no’ to the wrong thing.
Sometimes, it’s hard to refuse a friend or family of a small favor. And just sometimes people are too gullible to say no.
What does it mean to say no?
Everyone says that we’ve to leave our comfort zone one day or the other, that we need to come out of the nutshell. But does that mean saying yes to everything and everybody?
We could beginning by citing a very common example- you have a friend who has a very notorious reputation of not returning back a borrowed book. He asks you to lend you one. You’re too good a friend to say no. But is this a wise choice, knowing he has a past history of refusing to adhere to the deal?
Does it always have to be books? Couldn’t it be bigger things, like money, or jewelry or other valuable stuff? This is where we need to learn to say no.
Moving on to bigger things- we all know what peer pressure is. And we all know what peer pressure means today. We want to be liked by everyone, and we go beyond limits to make that happen.
We all want to fit in, and we do things we don’t like just so we could be the part of the ‘group’.
We try things we haven’t tried before alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, and the like.
We think if we say no, we won’t be part of the clique anymore, or they’ll make fun of us, or we’ll be termed cowards.
While it is true that it is important to go over and beyond our comfort zone to achieve growth, it is also important to know what our limits are, when to say no and when to be firm about it.
Let us now consider the worst case scenario, the biggest of all the three issues- a girl dates a boy, he claims to be in love with her, and, for convenience, let us assume that he genuinely does love her, and vice versa. One fine day, however, in the spur of the moment, he asks the girl for some inappropriate pictures of her- pictures not meant for anybody in the world. The girl gives in because she loves him, and is scared that he might break up with her.
But is her self respect, her dignity and her pride more important than the relationship?
Girls, you need to know when to firmly say no.
Guys, you need to know that it is a no when she says so.
They say life demands you to be your own hero. Say no, and be the hero of your life.
They say we are responsible for our safety. Yes we are, say no and save yourself from bad influences.
They say it’s our life, we make the decisions. That is what i say too- Don’t say yes because he/she is your friend. Don’t say yes because you want to fit in. Don’t say yes for keeping the love.
Say no because you know it is the right thing to do!
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Very true, Devika I completely agree. People actually tend to do the kind of stuff, which they actually won’t ever think of doing, just under the peer pressure.
Even when I was in the college I was also asked to do certain things which I would certainly never do in my life and I’m glad that i said “NO” at that time.
And ya, it is very essential to say NO at a right time!
Well written 🙂
very true!you should not compromise with your self-esteem for anything or anyone!
It happens with me a lot of times. ..its difficult to say no..but it’s better to say no…than to linger on things. ……Well done Devika
Very good article!
good one 🙂
liked it 😀
i totally agree with you…teenagers tend to do certain things just under peer pressure just because they dont know how to say a ‘NO’…i have seen many people who start smoking and drinking just under peer pressure…nothing is more important that self respect and one must not simply say yes to everything which one does not want to do…
very true… and very nicely narated
Liked it 🙂
Very nice work….loved it…inspiring!
I completely agree with you Devika…sometimes in a situation its really hard to say no even when you know that saying no is the right thing……and we do this just to make someone happy….
Really inspiring article. Specially in today’s senarios it is really important to learn to say No
Really inspiring article. Specially in today’s world it is really important to learn to say No
Nice.
Loved this! It’s so necessary to say no at times when you’re not comfortable with anything even it seems the hardest to do.
interesting article 🙂
True . A good thought for everyone to ponder. Yes one shud be brave enough to say no to all wrongs even when he / she knows that his / her intrest can suffer .
Well expressed and text beautifully
I agree
Great article Devika…..
True af…
Very well written! Good job 🙂
I can really related to it. I have a really hard time saying a firm no, which sometimes leads to harder situations. It’s crucial to learn this. Good job.
Good Work 😀
A very very nice article loved it 🙂
It was lovely!loved the way you ended the article!
beautiful article…good job…
Interesting
Loved it.saying no is very tough for teenagers now a days.Peer pressure is becoming a big part of life..guts to say no is what will make u different
Yaaaa….its very difficult to say a no….but never compromise with your self esteem
great
Very true, say ‘no’ whenever u feels to say rather than saying than saying ‘yes’ and waiting for. The situation to become worse for you..very inspiring, very well written..amazing ..
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Waoo wat a topic..just loved it….well presented…keep writing::)))
Well-written! It provides good food for thought.
Great article. Way to go deva :*
Completely agree.. knowing that this is wrong we still agree.. Because saying no.requires lot of efforts.. and that is what I think.many of us should work on 🙂 nice work
Inspiring one!
one of the much need to be talked about-topics. (y)
good points 🙂
Well written.. It’s very true.. If we say no and the other person cannot understand our reasons then we cannot have a relationship that helps us to grow.. And those who accept us for who we are would never force us to do anything.
A very good article.
Something that everyone can relate to.
It is because of the peer pressure and our surroundings that sometimes we do not have the courage to say no to certain unusual things .
But in the end one has to be aware and listen to the inner voice that lies within all of us and have the courage to follow our heart
Amazing article ! Good job babe?
This is one of the best articles I have read ?n so amazing described !!
Man dis got me..srysly
Nice work
Pretty intriguing. Nice work!