Nobody cares, and if they do, you shouldn’t care that they care: You have recently got a new car? – Nobody really cares. Four weeks down the line it will be just another car among all the thousands of others moving down the street and sitting in garages and driveways. People care about your car just as much as you care about all of those. You have to understand this that your happiness is not based on people caring, because they don’t and they won’t. And if they really do, then either they want your stuff or hate you for it.
There will be someone to break rule number one: Seldom, there will be some people in your life will confront the odds and actually care about you. If they value you, then they will also value things that you value, and they’ll listen. When you talk about all of those things that nobody else cares about, they will look into your eyes and consume your words, and in that moment you will know that every part of them is there with you.
Spend your life with rule breakers: You should wither marry them, befriends with them, work with them or spend quality time with them. It doesn’t matter how much power you have, you’ll never be able to make someone care — so gather close the caring.
Money is cheap: There are trillions upon trillions of rupees floating around the world, things made up of cash whose value is made up and credited to it, anyway. Remember you must not spend you entire life around just to get a tiny portion of this pile, and make your spirit of generosity reflect this principle.
Money is expensive: It is difficult to get your hands on sometimes — and you never know when someone’s going to pull the floorboards out from under you, so it is important to be careful with it. Avoid any kind of debt on assets that will depreciate one day, and you must never incur debt in order to prove your vanity. Debt represents imbalance and, in some sense, often a resignation of control.
Learn the art of public speaking: When you know how to speak in order to change someone’s mind, to instill confidence in someone, to quiet the fears of a child, then you will know this power firsthand. However, bear in mind as you use it that your opponent in any debate is not the other person, but ignorance. If you develop an understanding of how people work, you will be able to see behind veils of communication and see what levers little men are pulling. Not only will you develop immunity from all manner of commercials, marketing, hucksters and salesmen, to the beautiful speeches of liars and thieves, you’ll also find yourself able to craft your speech in ways that influence people.
Not only are you responsible to everyone, but you’re responsible for yourself: We are responsible to everyone for something, even if it’s something as basic as an affirmation of their humanity. There are those around you who strive under burdens larger than yours, who stand in need of touch and respect and chances. Conversely, nobody else is going to find success for you, and nobody else is going to instill happiness into you from the outside. It completely relies on you.
Discover the reality in terms of systems: You have to understand the world around you as a massive web of interconnected, largely interdependent systems, then will turn out to be much simpler and less mystifying. The lesser we blame on to magic and allow to exist ahead of the fog, the less vulnerable you will be to this system.
Account for the threat: At times chaos consumes the most meticulous of plans, and if you live life with no margins in a financial, emotional, or any other sense, you will be subject to its whims. You must take risks, but backstop them with something. People who say having a Plan B is a sign of weak commitment. You should do what you need to in order to keep your grip.
You both need and don’t need other people. You need others in a sense that you need to be part of a community—there’s a reason we reflexively pity hermits. Regardless of your theory of anthropogenesis, it’s hard to deny that we are built for community, and that ‘we’ is always more than ‘me.’ However, you don’t need another person in order for your life to have meaning—this idea that Disney has shoved through our eyeballs, that there’s someone out there for all of us if we’ll just believe hard enough and never stop searching, is hokum… because of arithmetic, if nothing else. Establish your own life—then, if there’s a particular person that you can’t help but integrate, believe me, you’ll know.
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