The Power of Saying No
“just one cigarette bro, comeon!”
“could you please cover my shift for me?”
“Could you please go to the market and grab the groceries for me?”
There will be various instances in one day itself when you are asked to do something against your wishes- but you do it anyway. Is it because you like to do it? Is it because you can’t stand someone being angry with you or is it because you shun all the negative thoughts away by saying “oh no, I’ll do it. It’s not that big a deal”
The answer is that some people just can not say no. Agreed, saying no is not easy but at times you have to be a little selfish and just plainly say NO. This doesn’t make you a bad person. It actually does more good than harm. These two letters form an expression representing your dedication and devotion to charting your own destiny. The book- “The Power of Saying No” by SIMON WRIGHT propagates just that.
lets say hypothetically you are going out for dinner with your friends. Suddenly, one friend takes out a pack of cigarettes. They’ll try coaxing you into trying it or persuade you by saying it is just one drag. But why should you give up your moral values or beliefs just for someone else’s amusement? Is smoking doing any good to you? NO. This is the power of saying no. Don’t ever fall prey to peer pressure.
Another situation, you are working late at the office, and a colleague asks you to complete his project just because he’s tired from the day’s work. On hearing this it infuriates you just little specially because you know that you’ve had an equally tiring day. However, you anyway say yes just because you can’t say no. You end up not only completing your colleague work but also fall short on time to complete your work.
It is in little episodes like these that people walk over you and take you for granted. You portray yourself as someone ‘really nice’ who will do everybody’s work for them. Often your inability to refuse renders you tired, feeling helpless, angry and sad. All at the same time. So why invest in something that holds absolutely no benefits for you? Change yourself today, don’t let people take advantage of you. Learn how to say no without feeling guilty, after all, at the end of the day it is your happiness that matters the most.