Attitude- The little thing that makes the big difference

Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.

It is because of social influences, people form views and attitudes people and about different issues in life that exist in the form of behavioral tendencies.

There are various forms of attitude that people choose to adopt. Believe it or not but even attitudes have components such as

1. Valence- This tells us how positive or negative our attitude towards an object is.
2. Extremeness- This tells us how positive or negative our attitude is in general.

We all can wish to adopt a happy attitude, care free attitude or a sweet attitude. Yet some of us choose to live with a angry and sad attitude. Why is it so that some of us choose this path?

Research popularly determines that a lot of the anger within a person can be traced back to their childhood and the disturbed interpersonal relationships they had to endure. This could be an authoritarian sibling or even a bad relationship with the persons parents. However something needs to happen in the present to re-invoke these repressed feelings.

Dissatisfaction with life is another cause for a bad attitude. Personal problems, financial problems and professional problems are constantly poking us in the back of our heads because of which we aren’t able to pursue a happy healthy life.

This can have a lot of negative consequences such as breaking up of important relationships, indulgence in substances such as alcohol and drugs. In some cases people may also lose their jobs. So what is the way out of this abyss?

1. Professional help: If you feel that your attitude is extremely bad and you yourself can’t handle it on a personal level then seek professional help. Talking to a psychologist about your disturbed childhood relationships can benefit you exponentially.
2. Find a new hobby- Be it swimming, playing tennis, yoga or even reading a book. Use all of this as an outlet to take out your anger. Don’t unnecessarily get angry at people for no valid reason.
3. Self regulation- Most people have a peak time to get irritated.  For most it is after a long tiring day at work. This is when you are required to be aware. Don’t let small things get to you. Breathe in and breathe out every time something bothers you. Indulge in dialogue instead a ballad of blames when dealing with a stressful situation.

Whatever it is, you will be able to overcome it. Best of luck! 🙂

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