The fact is most people are bombarded by negativity each day. A lot of the negativity is self-inflicted…influenced by the company you keep and your personal perspective on life’s realities. Few negativities being faced are
- Arguments. Many arguments are the result of poor communication, the lack of open mindedness, or the clash of opposing values and principles. People also argue to force their viewpoint on others or just to let off steam.
- Worry. Worrying about losing control. They desire certainty in an uncertain world. These people feel that worrying is productive and they can’t get worrying thoughts out of their head.
- Fear. Some people fear the unknown. Fear encourages people to withdraw, keep information close to their vest, hide mistakes, and refuse to take risks. Whether their fear is caused by something real or imagined, perception is reality.
- Blame. Criticizing and insulting people in front of their peers, challenging their competence, demanding impossible deadlines, and cutting them out of the information loop are tactics that create negativity. Also, when something goes wrong, people look to others to cast blame.
- Complaints. Few people are compulsive complainers and grumble out of boredom or a desire to turn an awkward moment of silence into a conversation starter. Or sometimes, people complain just because it makes them feel better to vent.
- Criticism. While constructive feedback is offered with good intent, constant and biting criticism can lead to stress, anxiety, and reduced self-esteem.
- Mistrust. People spend endless hours second-guessing intent, peering over shoulders, and creating elaborate approval processes to check and recheck.
- Jealousy. When is enough, enough? We live in a society where many people aren’t satisfied with their own accomplishments. If our neighbor buys a new toy, if our colleague receives a promotion, or if the TV celebrity flaunts a new design, we want it too. The problem is, after the excitement wears off, the finish line moves as well. Whether it’s affordable, deserved, or needed never comes into question.
Gossip (our national pastime). People gossip to fit into a group, fill a void in conversation, prove that they’re in the know, take revenge on a person, put someone in their place, or merely to gain attention. Gossip is a disease spread mouth to mouth. It’s one of those distractions that keep us from focusing on our own lives.